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Ethan R Whitwam

Ethan R Whitwam

In Loving Memory of Ethan:

On the somber day of August 4, 2023, our son Ethan R. Whitwam, was taken from us far too soon as the result of an automobile accident. Ethan, aged 18, was a force of boundless energy, hard work & determination, and had a love for all things that define the fabric of small-town life.

Born and raised in Arkansaw, WI, a close-knit community, that lifts you up in times of immeasurable grief. Ethan grew up skipping rocks, making forts, fishing the day away, and bow-hunting the bluffs of the family farm in Buffalo County.

From early on, his competitive spirit took hold, a disciple of the gridiron, and slugger on the baseball diamond. An undeniable force on the field, his infectious banter and warm heart made him a cherished teammate and friend.

He is survived by his parents, Chad and Jennifer, who are the pillars of strength, the guiding lights, and the unwavering cheerleaders who nurtured his passions and dreams. The linchpin in Ethan’s life, was his deep-rooted love for his twin brother, Eli, his older brother, Isaiah, and sister-in-law Hannah. The three amigos (+1), inseparable in laughter and adventure, remind us all of the immeasurable value of kinship.

He is also survived by his grandparents, James & Monica Whitwam, Terry & Sharon Weisenbeck, great-grandparents Lois & Ron Charen and Arnold Weisenbeck, his aunts and uncles, Jamie Whitwam & Josh O’Dill, Nicole & Paul Callahan, Rachel & Curt Patnode, cousins Autumn, Kelsey, Kaleb, Maddex, Romen, Ian and Kathryn and special friend Skout Hayden. He is preceded in death by his paternal great-grandmother Virgil Ronning, paternal great-grandfather, Roy Milliren, maternal great-grandmother, Edith Weisenbeck and maternal great-grandparents, Richard and Marcella Brunner.

While our hearts are heavy, let us honor Ethan's memory to all who were lucky enough to know him. May he be reunited with his friend Gabe, and the heavens be filled with endless football and baseball games, snowmobile trails, hunting days, and the soothing sounds of a river teeming with fish. Until we meet again, dear Ethan, may your spirit forever grace us with love and banter.

Funeral Mass will be 11:00AM Wednesday, August 9, 2023 at St. Mary’s Catholic Church in Durand with Rev. Emmanuel Asamoah-Bekoe officiating. Burial will be in the church cemetery. Visitation will be from 4:00-7:00PM Tuesday at the Rhiel Funeral Home in Durand and one hour prior to services at the church on Wednesday.

Rhiel Funeral Home & Cremation Services, Durand, is serving the family.


  1. Patti Blount

    I'm sorry to hear about the passing of Ethan. Sympathy to the family during this difficult time.

  2. John and Judy Parr

    Bless you at this difficult time

  3. Jim & Marci Newcome

    May warm memory forever comfort your heart. Our deepest sympathies for your loss.

  4. Gwen Kinne

    Thoughts and prayers.

  5. Simone Luca

    Thoughts and prayers ????????

  6. Paul Brayden

    My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this time. ????????????

  7. Steven and Bebe Pittman

    Whitwam family, we are sorry for your lost of Ethan. God does take youthful people early in their life to heaven. May he rest in peace with the Lord. God is good. Steven, Bebe, Jennifer, Jessica, Jillian Pittman from Virginia.

  8. Elaine Rud

    So very sorry for your loss. May God bless you with His everlasting love and peace, knowing that Ethan is with His heavenly father of grace and beauty that we can only imagine, prayers to you all.

  9. Loret Retzloff

    Thoughts and prayers.

  10. Patti Gould

    Our heartfelt sympathies to you all. Stay strong and know that your community and others around, are embracing you all with ❤️.

  11. Jacob & Ashley Wheeler

    We are so very sorry for your excruciating loss. With heavy hearts, we give you all our prayers for God’s guidance, strength, love, and grace; and prayers for Ethan, as God has wrapped His mighty loving arms around him and welcomed him to His eternal home of Heaven Our hearts are with you ❤️

  12. Walter Hovland

    Our deepest condolences during this difficult time
    Our thoughts and Prayers are with the entire family
    Sending Prayers ????

  13. Gary and Nicki Brantner

    Jennifer, Chad and family I cannot begin to imagine the loss and pain your family is going through. Sending our deepest thoughts and prayers.

  14. Larry and Carol Prissel

    Thinking of you all in this time of loss and asking God to tenderly care for your deepest needs. You are in our Prayers.

  15. Tonja Binkowski

    Please accept our deepest sympathy and know that we are keeping you in our thoughts and prayers.
    Bob and Tonja Binkowski
    Dalton and Dillon

  16. Crystal Dow

    To the family....Monica and Jim and Chad and all of you...I'm so sorry...Crystal Dow

  17. Angie, Desi & Drew Anderson

    Heartbreaking. Sending thoughts & prayers to the Whitwam family & friends/2023 classmates.

  18. Randy & Sharon Bauer

    Jeni, Chad and family,
    What a loving tribute to your son Ethan. He has touched so many lives in such positive ways. There are no words to express the depth of our sympathy. May God's love wrap around you and support you during this most difficult time. Praying for peace and comfort for you and your whole family

  19. Sherry Drysdale-Schruth

    Jennifer & family, there are no words at a time like this. Sending love, hugs, & prayers that God's loving arms will hold you up. Your Mary Kay family will be praying for you.

  20. Tammy Bishop

    I am so truly sorry for your loss, you have our deepest sympathy, a young man gone to soon, stay strong, sending thoughts and prayers to you all.❤️

  21. Judy Belanger

    So sorry my heart goes out to you all these grandchildren and great-grandchildren of Lois’s I watched grow up through her eyes

  22. Denise Fetzer

    Such a beautiful tribute. My heart goes out to you all. There just are no words at a time like this that make sense. My God be with you as a source of strength in the upcoming days. Ethan was a delight to so many.

  23. Ethan Schroeder

    Dear whitwam family I am so sorry for your loss Ethan and I were good friends we will all miss him dearly

  24. Mondovi Football Team

    Sending our deepest sympathies to Eli, their parents, their family and friends. Our prayers are with you during this difficult time. So sorry for your loss.

  25. Brian and Dawn Havens

    Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family, Ethan was an amazing young man he always had a smile on his face.

  26. Cristi, Pat and Jarod Falkner

    We are saddened to hear the news and are very sorry for your loss. Sending healing thoughts and prayers to you and your family during this difficult time.

  27. Marcus Goebel

    My thoughts and prayers go out to the whole Whitwam family. I was given the opportunity to teach Ethan and Eli this past school year along with having them both as teacher assistants they both where a joy and always had smiles on there faces.
    Ethan will be missed greatly along with all the great memories

    Mr. Goebel or aka Gabel shed Eli will know the saying.

  28. Susan Zuberbuehler

    So sorry for your loss.

  29. Nick and Sue Sperger

    We are so sorry for your loss. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time. Our hearts go out to all of you.

  30. Diana Weber

    I'm so sorry for this tragic situation. My family sends their prayers and hugs.

  31. Jean Gardner.

    Condolences to all his family and friends. May Eathan RIP! Prayers for all of your loss.

  32. Brenda

    I am so terribly sorry for the loss of your son Ethan. Praying for all of you.

  33. Vicci Rosenberg

    So sorry to hear about this tragic event. Family is in my thoughts and prayers!! Enjoy cheering on in his sporting event. Such a great loss. God bless!!

  34. Rhonda Sweeney

    Jennifer & Family,

    Our hearts are with you today and for the next year.

    Rhonda Sweeney & Brian Winnekins

  35. Mary Jo & Roger Davis

    We are so sorry for your loss. May you feel God's comfort as peace as we lift you all up in prayers.

  36. Lee & Char Anderson

    So sorry for your loss. Our thoughts are with you at this very difficult time.

  37. Rita Piccolo

    My deepest sympathy on the sudden and devastating loss of your child, brother, grandchild, great grand child and friend.

  38. Paul and Amanda Glaus

    Jeni, Chad and family,
    There are no words to express the depth of our sympathy to help relieve the pain you are experiencing at this time. May God's love wrap around you and support you during this most difficult time. All of the beautiful memories will help keep Ethan alive. Praying for peace and comfort for all of you.

  39. Emmanuel Asamoah-Bekoe

    Oh such a fine gentleman who was dedicated to his faith and very respectful to everyone. I still have memories of him serving as usher in church with his brother. He had good connection to his family and friends.

    Condolences and sympathy to his family and friends.

  40. Sister Deb Schwab

    My sincere sympathy to all of you in your loss and grief.

  41. Sarah Yoder

    So sorry for your loss! Sending prayers!

  42. Anne Emerson

    I just met Ethan this past summer when signing him up for Carpenters Local 1074. What a wonderful young man! My condolences to his family & friends. May God give you all strength to deal with this loss.

  43. Dawn Haefner-cripe

    I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. My heart and prayers go out to you and your family.

  44. Nancy Bauer

    Jeni and Chad, Eli and Isaiah and all of the family…there are just no words to convey how much my heart is hurting for all of you. Just know you are all in my thoughts and prayers. Hugs to all of you. Life can be so cruel. Be strong and know Ethan is now your guardian angel.

  45. Susan Whitwam

    I'm so sorry for your loss my heart breaks for you and your family

  46. Nick Gilles

    I'm so sorry for your family's loss. Ethan was a great guy! Thoughts and prayers to you!????
    Nick and Andrea

  47. Steve and Linda Talford

    Deepest sympathy to the Whitwam and Weisenbeck families. May your memories ease your pain in the upcoming days ahead.

  48. Terri, Mike and Savanah Dematteo

    Our hearts are broken for all who loved Ethan. We extend our most sincere sympathy and pray for comfort during this difficult time. We will continue to pray for healing and peace for all of his friends and family. May God be with all of you, Terri, Mike and Savanah Dematteo

  49. Dick and Doshie Grey

    We are so sorry to hear of the tragic accident. Our Sympathy to all the family. I know that Edie will welcome him to her home in Heaven, as she so loved all of her family and was especially fond of the great grandchildren.

  50. alexis

    I am so sorry for your loss!

  51. Brian Winnekins and Rhonda Sweeney

    Rhonda and I are saddened on the loss of Ethan. May your family find peace in this very difficult time.

  52. Valerene Cataract

    So very sorry for loss, especially when so young. Prayers going out to all his family.


    We are so sorry! What a tragic and sad time for all who loved and treasured him. Praying all will be surrounded by God's comfort and assurance of his bountiful grace. With love and sympathy...Kim & Bob

  54. Craanen Roxanne

    So so sorry for your loss! May god take time to heal all of your hearts..

  55. Joe and Jan Drier

    Sending our Deepest Sympathy and Prayers to you all!!

  56. Joanne Jahnke Wegner & Marty Wegner & Isaac Wegner

    We are so very sorry for your loss. Keeping you all in our thoughts.

  57. Kim and Lynette Wagenbach

    We will never feel the pain that you are enduring but please know our heartfelt sorrow and prayers for strength are sent to you all during this time of such great loss. May Ethan rest in peace.

  58. Pat & Bob Cataract

    My heartfelt sympathy to Chad and Jeni and family. May you find comfort and peace in Gods strength. I cannot fathom the great amount of pain you all are going through but lean on family and friends to get you thru this very difficult time. Godspeed

  59. Wayne John and Patty

    A beautiful tribute to your wonderful son. Our Heartfelt Sympathy Goes out to you and your family and also Ethan's freinds.
    May God Bless you with the strength and support you will need in the in thetimes head.

  60. Erin Richardson

    So sorry to hear about Ethan. He was and is wearing a big smile. Thoughts and prayers.

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